I once dated a guy that the only thing we had in common to talk about was Game of Thrones. We met on Tinder during the last season of the show and somehow we actually went on several dates. Somehow I met his friends. Somehow it was still nice to be around him but man we had absolutely nothing to talk about. And sometimes I think about how crazy it was, I tried to have a relationship based solely on us liking the same TV show. I genuinely don’t think we had anything else in common. so when the finale of the show aired… I never heard from him again.
I do mean that somewhat dramatically (we did go on one more date). But it sounds sad, and I was quite sad at the time. even though he just dipped, I’m so thankful he had the balls to stop talking to me because I would have poured myself into it and let it go on way longer. I would made myself his picturesque girlfriend, wasting both our time and I would have been SO bored.
A year later, I half jokingly asked my guy friend to set me up. He came back with his ONLY suggestion being a friend that I’d met once. His friend and I spent the whole night picking on our mutual friend speaking in How I Met Your Mother quotes. Being that the finale had aired years before, I saw no reason to try and date this guy. Not that I couldn’t have had more in common with this one, but there wasn’t even the attraction that was there with the other.
My point is… While good information to know, maybe what is your favorite ____ is not the most prominent piece of information we thought it was.
When I was small talking my way through dating apps, I got in a rhythm of asking and being asked the same questions. What’s your favorite: color, song, movie, tv show, food? While yes it’s important to know these things about your person, every person who’s lasted in my life I learned these things over time. And I’ll admit, it’s way more fun to learn things along the way with a shocking “REALLY?!”
The Wordy Over Thinker 